Does TRUE Love Exist in Marriage? | Ep. 3

Welcome back to The Noble Marriage, where Travis and Adelle bring you relatable, raw, and real conversations about marriage and life. In this episode, your hosts dive deep into the concept of love, challenging common misconceptions and offering a transformative, God-centered perspective. In This Episode: Starting with Gratitude: Travis and Adelle begin by sharing heartfelt gratitude for each other, demonstrating a practice they encourage all couples and coaching clients to adopt.

Discover how expressing gratitude can deepen your connection and make a significant difference in your relationships.

The Warped View of Love: Adelle opens up about her past, sharing how societal influences and personal experiences led her to a skewed understanding of love. Travis also reveals his own "infatuation-driven" view of love, leading to repeated disappointment.

Expectations vs. Reality: They discuss the "gap" between expectations and reality in relationships, highlighting how unspoken expectations often lead to disappointment and conflict. The Impact of Premarital Sex: The conversation takes a raw turn as they explore how premarital sex can create "soul ties," mask true character, and lead to subconscious trust issues and feelings of being used, ultimately hindering genuine connection in marriage.

What is Real Love? A Biblical Perspective: Travis and Adelle turn to scripture to uncover God's definition of love. Matthew 22:37-39: They break down Jesus's greatest commandments – to love God with all your heart, soul, and mind, and to love your neighbor as yourself. This leads to a crucial discussion on the importance of self-love as a foundation for loving others. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7: The hosts read this powerful passage, encouraging listeners to insert their own name into the verses for a personal reflection on how well they embody true, sacrificial love.

Receiving God's Love: The conversation shifts to the profound truth that true love is not something we earn, but something we receive through Jesus Christ. They emphasize that God's love fills us, allowing an overflow to be given to others.

Romans 12:2: They discuss the importance of renewing your mind away from the world's patterns of love and aligning with God's truth. The Fruit of the Spirit: Travis highlights that love is the first fruit of the Holy Spirit (Galatians 5:22-23), a gift already available to believers.

Key Takeaways: Expressing gratitude to your spouse and loved ones is a simple yet powerful way to deepen connection and affirm your appreciation. Many of us grow up with warped views of love influenced by movies, media, and unhealthy experiences, leading to unrealistic expectations and disappointment. True love, as defined by God, is sacrificial, patient, kind, and not self-seeking. It requires a healthy understanding and practice of self-love, which is a gift received from God. God's love is not earned but received, filling us so we can genuinely love others. This relationship with God completes us in a way no human can. By renewing our minds to God's truth, we can fight from victory, not for victory, and experience life for us, not to us.

Reflection Questions: What is your current view of love? Where did that concept originate for you? How do you practice gratitude in your marriage or significant relationships? After hearing Adele and Travis's experiences, how do you think your past experiences might have shaped your view of love? How does the description of love in 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 challenge or confirm your understanding of love? In what ways can you actively receive God's love to better equip you to love yourself, your spouse, and others? Next Week: Join Travis and Adelle next week for Episode 4 as they continue to unpack more about their marriage journey and the realities they faced. Don't forget to visit their academy for more resources, coaching, and intensive services to support your marriage!