The Root of Our Wounds | Ep. 15

Welcome to The Noble Marriage, where we bring real, relatable, and raw conversations all about life and marriage! In Episode 15, Travis and Adelle dive deep into the emotional wounds that shape us, sharing a profound personal story that will resonate with many. Last week, they explored the critical role of emotional safety, safeguards, and boundaries in marriage, and Adelle bravely shared her story of almost crossing a line.  If you haven't heard it, be sure to go back and listen to Episode 14 for insights on protecting your marriage from the "bad" and keeping the "good" in. This week, the focus shifts to the hidden impact of childhood experiences on our adult lives. Travis courageously opens up about a single incident in first grade that profoundly shaped his perception of himself, leading to a deep-seated belief of "not good enough." 

• The Power of Early Experiences: Travis shares how a seemingly minor event in first grade – struggling to read aloud – created a core belief of feeling "dumb," "not good enough," and "a failure," perceptions that followed him into adulthood and influenced his life choices.

• The Unseen Impact of Emotional Wounds: Understand how childhood wounds, even subtle ones, can alter the trajectory of your life, impacting career paths, relationships, and self-worth.

• Recognizing Your "Thorns": Travis and Adelle introduce the concept of "thorns" – deep-seated core fears and negative beliefs (like "rejected," "unimportant," "insignificant," or "controlled") that stem from past painful events and operate unconsciously.

• The Enemy's Tactics: Learn how the enemy targets children, exploiting their vulnerability and inability to process emotions healthily, to plant lies that become ingrained as core beliefs.

• The Illusion of External Validation: Discover how seeking praise, accolades, and external approval becomes a coping mechanism to mask feelings of inadequacy, creating an exhausting and unfulfilling cycle.

• The Path to Freedom: Travis and Adelle emphasize that these "thorns" can be faced and removed. Through self-reflection and aligning with God's truth, we can experience true freedom from these distorting lies and their impact.

• Vulnerability as a Catalyst for Healing: Witness Travis's raw emotion as he reflects on his past, demonstrating the power of confronting these deep-seated wounds and the profound healing that comes from speaking truth into them.

This episode marks a significant turning point in The Noble Marriage journey, as Travis and Adelle begin to reveal the underlying "thorns" that impacted their story and how God led them to uncover and heal from them.  Get ready to embark on a deeper path to understanding and healing in your own life! 

Journaling Questions for Self-Reflection:

• Think back to your childhood. What specific events happened that had a significant impact on how you view the world and people around you from that moment on?

• What are some of the core beliefs you hold about yourself? Are any rooted in past experiences and could benefit from being challenged with God's truth?

• Can you think of any negative stories you tell about your past? Is there an alternative way you could look at that story and what actually happened?

Next Week on The Noble Marriage: Join us as we explore daily habits and activities and their major impact on our well-being. We'll dive into areas like diet, exercise, relationship to food, and mindset, revealing how our "thorns" often play into all of these aspects of our lives.