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Why Me? Finding Restoration After Betrayal | Ep. 3

Season #2

 

Have you ever faced betrayal and found yourself asking, "Why me? Why did God allow this to happen?" In today's deeply personal episode, Travis and Adelle continue their raw and honest journey, exploring the profound pain of betrayal and how God desires to bring deep restoration to your heart.

Episode Highlights:

  • The Search for Truth: Adelle opens up about her intense "fact-finding" mission after discovering Travis's infidelity. She reveals that what she thought was a search for evidence of betrayal was, in reality, a subconscious quest for proof of her own core belief: "I'm not good enough." This pattern is common among betrayed spouses.

  • The Betrayer's Perspective: Travis shares his experience during Adelle's questioning, admitting he often said "I don't know" because he truly hadn't confronted the "why" behind his actions himself. He acknowledges that Adelle's questions forced him to look at uncomfortable truths he had never considered.

  • Running from the Lie: Adelle explains that this betrayal brought her deepest fear—"not being good enough"—into her reality, causing immense destruction to her heart.

  • Travis's Proactive Steps to Healing: Adelle expresses gratitude for Travis's immediate actions, like seeking wise counsel and ensuring she had support, even though she initially resisted. Travis shares that his actions stemmed from a repentant and humble heart (Psalm 51), driven by a desire for truth and restoration in their marriage.

  • The Struggle to Trust: Adelle candidly describes her struggle to trust Travis, questioning if his transformed demeanor was genuine or "just another lie." They affirm that it's okay not to trust immediately, as trust is earned, not freely given.

  • God's Intervention and Deeper Intimacy: Adelle shares how being "stuck in this prison" of betrayal, despite being a victim of sin, forced her to confront her own separation from God. She realized she had placed Travis on a "throne" meant for God, and the betrayal brought that false idol crashing down. This brokenness led her to a deep, rich intimacy with God, far more satisfying than anything she had known, realizing He had more for her heart than she ever imagined.

  • The Battle and Surrender: Adelle describes the internal "war" between God's truth and Satan's lies, and the "literal rollercoaster" of triggers. She emphasizes that her desperation led to expectation, and God showed up.

  • God's Permission and Purpose: Adelle recounts a profound moment where God, in His gentle voice, gave her "permission to leave" but "asked her to stay." He revealed that if she did the work to heal, He would use her story for others' healing. This promise, though initially unwelcome in her pain, offered a glimmer of hope and purpose.

  • The Power of Surrender: The episode concludes with a powerful encouragement to surrender your will to God'swhen facing difficult circumstances. They assert that when a couple actively works together on their marriage, they can build something stronger, break generational sin, and create a God-honoring legacy.

 

Listener Q&A: Subscriber's Corner

 

Travis and Adelle respond to a vulnerable comment from a subscriber whose husband recently moved out after disclosing infidelity and is still with the other woman.

  • Healing Continues: They validate Harmony's pain, especially with her husband leaving, but affirm that her healing doesn't have to stop.

  • Power of Submission: They commend Harmony for submitting fully to God's will and for praying for her husband's salvation and spiritual awakening. They call this prayer a "weapon" in spiritual warfare, capable of reaching his heart in ways nothing else can.

  • God's Transformative Power: They encourage Harmony to trust that God can take what evil meant to harm her and turn it into something good.

  • Gift for Healing: They offer Harmony their Becoming Whole and Complete program to support her journey.

 

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Gratitude Corner:

Adelle expresses gratitude for Travis's patience during their healing, especially in sharing their story. Travis, in turn, thanks Adelle for her quick actions in seeking support during their darkest time, which he believes led to their enduring marriage. They encourage listeners to practice gratitude to enhance their relationships, as it helps you see your spouse in a better light and build intimacy.