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Your Marriage is a Battlefield: How to Fight the Unseen Enemy | Ep. 10

Season #2

Stop Fighting Your Spouse: Why Your Marriage is a Battlefield & How to Win the Real War (Spiritual Warfare in Marriage) ⚔️

Has your marriage felt like a full-blown war? For years, you might have believed your spouse was the enemy, the sole cause of your pain, division, and disconnection. But what if the real culprit is an unseen force targeting the very heart of your covenant?

Join Travis and Adelle—Board Certified Master Mental Health Coaches, authors, and speakers—as they share their raw, transparent journey from seeing each other as the enemy to fighting side-by-side against the true spiritual forces of evil. Drawing on their own story of brokenness, addiction, and infidelity, they expose the devil’s strategies that try to destroy your relationship with God and each other.

Learn how spiritual warfare manifests in your daily life through lies, isolation, temptation, and unforgiveness. Discover the transformational tools to stop being enslaved by your sinful nature and start living a Spirit-Led life to experience the abundant life God designed for your marriage.

 

Key Takeaways & Discussion Points

Identifying the Real Enemy 🛡️

  • The Unseen Culprit: Understand that the root of marital struggles is often an unseen spiritual force, not your spouse.

  • The Devil's Tactics: Learn to recognize the strategies the enemy uses to create discord:

    • Division and discord, believing lies about your spouse.

    • Temptation and a distortion of truth (a little truth mixed with a lie is still a lie).

    • Destructive words like threats of divorce, anger, or intentionally trying to get revenge.

    • Passive-aggressive behavior and stonewalling fostered in isolation.

Spiritual Attacks and Blind Spots 💔

  • Isolation is the Gateway: Discover how isolating from your spouse and God creates darkness, where secrets and destructive behaviors (sin) fester.

  • The Soul & Body Struggle (Romans 7:21-25): Recognize the internal battle between your desire to do right and the power within you that drags you toward sin, dominated by your sinful nature (body, mind, will, and emotions).

  • The Marriage Covenant Under Attack: The marriage covenant is a powerful metaphor for God's love and loyalty, making it a prime target for the enemy's plan to ultimately disconnect you from God.

  • Filling the God-Sized Hole: Acting out in addiction, overeating, shopping, or lust is a fleeting attempt to fill a pain that only God can fix.

Your Battle Plan for Victory ✅

  • Stop Focusing on the Pain, Start Focusing on Healing: Shifting your focus from what your spouse did to asking God, "What do you have for me in this?" empowers you to heal.

  • The Ultimate Tool: Forgiveness: Learn that unforgiveness is a major blockage to your personal healing and your connection with God.

  • Fighting Together: Realize that when you both identify the real enemy, you can stop battling each other and start fighting side-by-side for your marriage.

  • The Power of the Spirit (Romans 8): The solution to the sinful nature is living a spirit-led life, surrendering your life to God and allowing the Holy Spirit to lead your mind, will, and emotions.

  • Divine Weapons for Strongholds (2 Corinthians 10:3-5): Use God’s truth to take every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ, silencing the enemy's lies like "I'm unworthy" or "I'm abandoned." (Philippians 4:8)

  • Putting on the Armor of God (Ephesians 6:10-18): Be strong in the Lord and stand firm against the strategies and schemes of the devil.

 

Scriptures Mentioned

  • Romans 7:21-25: The principle of life—the internal war between desiring to do right and the power of sin.

  • Romans 6:23: The wages of sin is death.

  • Romans 8: Living a Spirit-led life.

  • John 10:10: Jesus came to give you life to the abundant.

  • Ephesians 6:10-18: The Armor of God and the nature of the spiritual enemy (not flesh and blood).

  • 2 Corinthians 10:3-5: Taking every thought captive.

  • Philippians 4:8: Think about what is true.

 

Resources

Check out this video on Spiritual Warfare in Marriage to see another perspective on how the devil attacks relationships. Defending Your Marriage: A Spiritual Battle Plan discusses the spiritual battle raging around us and how it impacts relationships, especially marriage.