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Layer 1: The Emotional Heart β€” Discovering the Thorns that Drive Betrayal | Ep. 2

Season #3

Welcome back to Season 3, where we are exposing the Six Layers of Deception the enemy uses to destroy marriages and derail individuals. In this powerful episode, we dive into Layer One: The Emotional Heart, the primary area where the enemy seeks to deceive us.

We explore how God created us to be emotional beings meant for love, joy, and connection, but how fear entered the picture after the Fall (Genesis 3). This fear has wreaked havoc ever since, manifesting as emotional "thorns"β€”deep-seated wounds from the past that live in our blind spots.

If you struggle with unhealthy reactions, feel stuck in the past, or find yourself repeating patterns you hate, this episode reveals the 'why' behind your actions. Learn how fear lowers your body's rhythm, creating "dis-ease," and how recognizing your thorns is the critical first step to regaining control and pursuing lasting healing after betrayal.

  Key Takeaways & Discussion Points

  • Born to Love, Learned to Fear: We are designed to love God and love our neighbor, yet fear immediately closed the emotional heart of Adam and Eve, creating a pattern that continues today.

  • The Thorns of the Emotional Heart: Thorns are fears rooted in past pain (like abandonment, betrayal, unfairness, or unworthiness) that live in your blind spots. They are designed to protect you but actually end up distorting your relationships and driving destructive behaviors.

  • The Cost of Chronic Fear: Learn how fear keeps your heart and body in a low rhythm state, potentially leading to emotional and physical "disease" over time.

  • Stuck in the Past, Paralyzed by the Future: The enemy uses the rehearsal of past hurts and the "what ifs" of the future to keep you trapped in fear, preventing you from being fully present with your loved ones.

  • The Breakthrough of Shifting Blame: Adelle shares her personal story of realizing her crippling fear of repeated betrayal didn't originate with her spouse's actions, but with an unhealed wound from childhood. This discovery removed the pressure to fix her spouse and empowered her to run after her own healing.

  • Unmasking the Lie: Every time you act out of fear, you are believing a lie. When you invite the Holy Spirit to reveal the first time you felt that specific fear, you gain the awareness needed for transformative freedom.

  • The Path to Protection: The way to "guard your heart" (Proverbs 4:23) is not by building walls, but by tearing down the walls built by lies through the truth of Jesus Christ.

 Action Steps for Lasting Freedom

  1. Watch Twice: The information on the emotional heart is dense. Watch this episode all the way through, then go back, pause, and take notes.

  2. Invite the Holy Spirit: Ask the Holy Spirit: "When was the first time I felt this fear (thorn)?" Be patient, as the brain often blocks out past painful experiences.

  3. Reflect and Share: Use the reflection question below to start uncovering your thorns and share your insights in the comments to encourage community healing.

 Resources Mentioned in This Episode

 

     

 Reflection Question

Grab your journal and look at one moment or feeling from your past where the word "thorn" or "fear" is resonating with you in your heart. Share what you discover in the comments below!