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Crushed in Spirit: My Story of Healing After Betrayal | Ep. 5

Season #2

Welcome to Episode 5 of The Noble Marriage! Adelle takes the lead in this powerful episode, opening with Psalm 34:18: "The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit." This was her reality following the discovery of betrayal, and she shares her story not for comparison, but to offer relatability, hope, and a reminder that no one has to walk this road alone.

 

The Crushing Weight of Betrayal

Adelle describes the immense pain and confusion that followed the betrayal.

  • A Roller Coaster of Emotions: She recounts her chaotic mix of emotions—from anger and rage to sorrow and depression. She felt as though she was living in a recurring nightmare, unable to accept the reality of what had happened.

  • The Inadequacy of "Sorry": Adelle shares her perspective that during this time, her husband's apologies were just words that couldn't possibly touch her deep pain. She was wrestling with a righteous anger over his sin, while also fighting the enemy's whispers that fueled her rage and led her to a place of self-shame.

  • The Physical Pain of a Broken Heart: Adelle reveals a common experience among betrayed women: a feeling like a "knife in the chest" or a physical stabbing of the heart. This sensation, she believes, is the very real feeling of a heart breaking under the weight of grief.

  • The Five Stages of Grief: She realized she was cycling through the five stages of grief—bargaining, fear, sorrow, and sadness. She would fall into a victim mentality, but she also knew she had to choose to rise above it to find healing.

 

Choosing Surrender and Healing

At her lowest point, Adelle made a conscious choice to surrender her pain to God.

  • A Prayer for Salvation: Acknowledging that the pain was beyond her strength, she prayed for the Lord to "save my crushed spirit." In that moment, she received the gentle realization that God was not only with her, but he also understood her pain perfectly, having been betrayed himself.

  • The Importance of Grieving: Adelle emphasizes the necessity of allowing herself to grieve. She discovered that resisting grief only made it more intense later on. When she gave herself permission to sit in the pain with the Lord and let the emotions come, they would pass more quickly and with less destructive force.

  • Taking Personal Responsibility: She highlights that while she did not cause the betrayal, the responsibility for her own healing was hers alone. This decision to take ownership of her healing journey was a pivotal turning point.

  • Healing with God: Adelle concludes her story by celebrating that because she chose to walk through the pain with God, her heart today is completely restored, full of life, and madly in love with Travis.

 

Subscribers' Corner

In the "Subscribers' Corner," Adelle and Travis read a heartfelt comment from a couple, Ben and Lindsay from England, who found their channel after dealing with betrayal.

  • A Prayer for a Couple: Ben and Lindsay share that watching The Noble Marriage's content together has helped them grow individually and as a couple. Adelle and Travis express immense gratitude for their prayers and offer a prayer for their continued healing and restoration.

  • A Gift of Healing: In a beautiful display of their ministry's mission, Adelle and Travis gift Ben and Lindsay their "Walking Through Betrayal" program as a resource to assist them on their unique path to restoration. They invite Ben and Lindsay to contact them within the next 48 hours to receive the program.

 

Finding Hope

 

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  • A Message of Hope: The couple ends with a reminder that there is always hope for healing and restoration, no matter how difficult the journey may seem. They encourage listeners to check out the next video in their healing playlist.

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